Beyond the ordinary
This is where your journey with us begins.
Below you will see various stages (and ages) of a mans life and within these sections we have annotated many events and questions that you may have during this period.
If there's any question you have that we have not got an answer to that you would like help with please let us know but submitting your question [here] and we will get back to you within 24 hours!
You will also see Online and In-person mens circles you can attend together with the Partnerships we have with Mentorship and Counselling services available to Behind the False front members
Life Event types and ages
We offer a range of online support tailored to meet your individual circumstances. Our approach is focused on understanding the real life situations you ware experiencing and giving you practical assistance on how to approach these challenges.
Young men in education (16>21 yrs)
Not sure about college, uni, apprenticeships or what’s next? You’re not alone. These are real questions from young men like you, with honest, non-judgemental answers and practical steps to take now. Start anywhere.
Early careers (21 > 30yrs)
Stuck in the wrong job, chasing promotion, or wondering if you’ve missed your chance? You’re not behind. These are real questions from men finding their feet at work, with honest, judgement-free answers and practical steps to take now.
Relationships & Sexuality
Dating, commitment, breakups, family, or feeling alone with someone? You’re not the only one. Each includes an honest, judgment-free answers and practical steps you can take now. Start wherever you like.
Money
Debt, bills, saving, or feeling like everyone else is ahead? You’re not alone. These are real questions from men taking control of their money. Each has an honest, judgement-free answer and practical steps to take now. Your worth isn’t your bank balance.
Career progression
Hit a ceiling, stepping into leadership, or considering a complete change? You’re not alone. These questions are from men figuring out where their career goes next. Each has an honest, non-judgemental answer and practical steps you can take now.
Physical Activity
Lost your fitness, can't find the motivation, or not sure where to begin? Plenty of men feel the same, even if they never say it. This section help you take on real questions about moving more, building habits that last and looking after your body as you get older. You don't always need a gym membership or a six-pack. You just need to start.
Mental Activity
Overthinking, struggling to focus, or feeling like your mind never switches off? Your mind needs care just like your body. This section answers real questions about stress, staying sharp, learning and finding headspace. The advice is straightforward, judgement-free and easy to fit into everyday life. Asking for help isn't weakness. It's how you get stronger.
Diet
Living on takeaways, confused by advice, or eating to cope with stress? Food is about more than weight—it affects your energy, mood and daily wellbeing. This section answers real questions from men who want to eat better without strict rules or fads. Find realistic swaps and simple habits that fit work, family and real life. Small, consistent changes make the biggest difference.
Starting a family
Not sure you're ready, worried about money, or wondering what kind of dad you'll be? These doubts are more common than most men admit. This section answers real questions about trying for a baby, fertility, pregnancy, the early days and relationship changes. Honest, supportive guidance helps at every stage. Nobody starts knowing how to be a father. Caring enough to ask is a good start.
Bereavement
Losing someone can turn your world upside down, and many men feel they must carry it quietly. Here, you don’t. This section is for you whether the loss is recent or years old, sudden or expected—a parent, partner, child, friend, or someone you never got to say goodbye to. The answers are gentle and honest, supporting both practical and emotional needs. There’s no right way to grieve, and no deadline either.
Addictions
Drinking, gambling, drugs, gaming, porn, or something you can’t stop? You’re not a bad person, and help is available. This section answers real questions about spotting the signs, understanding what drives the habit and taking back control. Expect frank, judgement-free advice, practical first steps and support. Admitting something has a hold on you is often the hardest part—and you’ve already started.
Relationship breakdown
Whether it ended suddenly or slowly fell apart, a breakup or divorce can shake your home, finances, time with your kids and sense of self. Many men put on a brave face and carry it alone. This section answers real questions about coping with loss, co-parenting, legal and practical steps, and rebuilding. You’ll get honest, balanced guidance. An ending is painful, but it doesn’t define the rest of your life.
Becoming a dad
Sleepless nights, changing priorities, and a responsibility you've never known before. Becoming a dad changes everything, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed as well as amazed. This section answers real questions about bonding with your baby, supporting your partner, balancing work and home, and holding on to who you are. Find honest, down-to-earth advice and practical tips for the early years and beyond. You don’t have to be perfect. Just be there.
When the kids start growing up
One minute they need you for everything. The next, they’re teenagers with strong opinions or packing to leave home. Watching them grow can bring pride, worry, distance and quiet loss. This section explores staying close through change, navigating the teenage years, letting go and finding yourself as they need you less. Your role is changing, but it still matters.
When the kids leave home
The house is quieter, the routine has changed, and you may wonder what comes next. For some men, it feels like freedom; for others, it hits harder than expected. Often, it’s both. This section explores the empty nest, reconnecting with your partner, finding new purpose, and building a different relationship with adult children. It isn’t the end of being a dad—it’s a new chapter.
Your relationship with your partner
Arguing more, talking less, or feeling like housemates? Long-term relationships go through seasons, and drifting apart doesn’t mean it’s over. This section explores communication, intimacy, trust, resentment, and staying connected through life’s pressures. Honest, balanced answers offer practical ways to understand each other better. A strong relationship isn’t problem-free—it’s one where both people keep showing up.
Planning to or already retired
Counting down the years, just finished work, or retired and still adjusting? Retirement is a big change—not just financially, but for your identity, routine and purpose. This section answers real questions about pensions and planning, filling your days, staying healthy and connected, and finding yourself without a job title. You'll find clear answers and practical steps at every stage. Stopping work doesn't mean you stop growing.
Later in life relationship
Spending more time together, finding love again, or facing life alone after loss? Later-life relationships bring unique joys and challenges, yet they’re rarely discussed. This section explores rediscovering each other, intimacy as you age, caring for a partner, dating again and coping with loneliness. Find warm, honest answers and practical guidance. It’s never too late to build connection or start again.
Living alone
Maybe you chose it, or life brought you here through a breakup, loss or the kids moving on. Living alone can offer freedom and peace, but also quiet evenings that feel too long. This section explores loneliness, self-care, staying social, managing a home and enjoying your own company. Find honest answers and simple ideas to feel more connected. Being alone doesn’t have to mean being lonely.
Losing a child
There are no words big enough for losing a child. Whether they died before birth, as a baby, or as a young person or adult, grief can feel unbearable and isolating. Many fathers feel they must stay strong for everyone else. Here, you don’t have to. This section gently answers questions about grief, guilt, relationships, other children and facing each day. You’re still their dad, always.
Fostering and adoption
Thinking about giving a child a home, going through the process, or adjusting to life as a foster or adoptive dad? It’s a rewarding path that can raise questions beyond usual parenting advice. This section covers eligibility, assessments, building trust, supporting children affected by trauma, and caring for yourself. The answers are honest and supportive. Family isn’t just biology—it’s who shows up.
Redundancy
One conversation and suddenly your job, routine and security are gone. Redundancy can shake your confidence, strain finances and leave you wondering what you did wrong. Usually, nothing. This section answers real questions about your rights, redundancy pay, telling family, coping with the shock and finding your next move. Get clear, practical guidance to regain control. Losing a job doesn’t mean losing your value.
Friendships & Community
When did you last have a real conversation with a mate? For many men, friendships quietly fade with work, family and life changes, until there’s no one left to call. This section answers real questions about making friends as an adult, reconnecting, opening up and finding your community. You’ll find honest answers and simple ways to start. Everyone needs their people—it’s never too late to find them.
Using Social Media
Endless scrolling, comparing yourself to others or getting pulled into arguments you didn’t need? Social media connects you with people, but can also drain your time, mood and sense of reality. This section answers real questions about screen time, online pressure, privacy, toxic content and setting a good example for your kids. Get balanced, practical advice to use it on your terms. You control the feed, not the other way round.
Limiting beliefs
"I'm not good enough." "It's too late for me." "Men like me don't do that." Sound familiar? Many of us carry beliefs from childhood, school or past failures that quietly shape our decisions. This section helps you spot these thoughts, understand where they came from and challenge them. Find honest answers and practical exercises to move forward. A belief is simply a repeated thought—and thoughts can change.
Bullying
Bullying doesn’t always end at the school gates. It can happen at work, online, in families and relationships. Men often stay silent, feeling they should handle it alone. This section answers real questions about spotting bullying, standing up for yourself, workplace rights, past effects and support. The answers are honest and judgement-free. Being targeted says nothing about your strength. Speaking up takes courage.
Illness
A diagnosis, long-term condition, or symptoms you’ve been putting off? Men are often last to see a doctor and first to say, “I’m fine.” This section answers real questions about illness, talking to your GP, telling loved ones, managing work and money, and coping emotionally. Find clear, compassionate advice and practical next steps. Looking after your health isn’t weakness—it helps you be there for those who need you.
Mid Life Crisis
Restless, questioning everything, or feeling life has passed you by? Midlife can raise hard questions about work, relationships, health and purpose. Often dismissed as sports cars and bad decisions, it can be a real, unsettling time for many men. This section explores what’s happening, why, and how to handle it well—with honest answers and practical steps. A crisis can become a turning point.
Men's circles and meeting up with other men
At Behind the False Front, we understand the importance of community and support. We offer various facilitated men's circles, both online and in-person, providing a safe space for sharing and growth. These circles are designed to help you navigate life's challenges with confidence and a strong peer support system.
Mentorship programme
We understand that finding the right guidance can make all the difference. Our mentorship program connects you with experienced individuals who can provide support, advice, and insights tailored to your specific challenges. Whether you're navigating career changes, personal development, or life transitions, our mentors are here to help you gain clarity and confidence. We foster a supportive environment where you can grow, learn, and achieve your goals with personalised attention and encouragement.
Online and in-person counselling
Behind the False Front offers access to both online and in-person counselling services designed to support men through various life challenges. Our specially selected Counselling partners offer qualified professionals to provide a safe and confidential space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings, develop coping strategies, and work towards personal growth. We understand that seeking support can be a significant step and we are here to help you select the right counsellor to support you.
Learning resources for you
We understand that continuous learning and access to valuable information are key to your personal growth. Our online learning resources of audiobooks, articles, blogs, podcasts and social media content are carefully curated to provide men with practical insights, tools, and guidance across various life stages and challenges.
Explore our comprehensive library of resources designed to support your journey towards a more fulfilling life , find encouragement, and connect with a community that understands what you are going through.
